How To Kiss A Girl

How do you kiss a girl if she likes you?

Download Article Download Article Have a crush on a great girl? How exciting! You might be looking to take the next step by sharing a kiss from her, and if that’s the case, you’re in luck. Below, we’ve included all the tips you need to set yourself up for success, and make sure the two of you have tons of fun, too.

  1. 1 Talk to her. Your goal is to become friends, so you’ll want to find things to laugh about together and discover things that you have in common. Read up on some funny jokes or make up your own and tell her. Laughing is a good way to break the anxiety and awkwardness of first dates.
    • Start with small talk. You could mention the the weather or a teacher you have in common. Compliment her on her hair, clothes or smile.
    • Ask about her favorite things. Discover her personal preferences by discussing movie scenes or songs to get an idea of what kind of things she likes and how she feels about romantic encounters.
    • Use confident body language. When you two talk, show her that you’re sure of yourself. Make sure to hold her eye contact, stand up straight, and if you can, limit any fidgeting.
  2. 2 Bond with her on a deeper level. You want her to feel comfortable and connected to you—more so than her other guy friends. Sharing emotional and personal information can really create a very strong and lasting connection. Women often use kissing to bond and reinforce that bond.
    • Ask her thoughtful questions. Some questions or prompts to ask in order to enhance bonding are: Describe a perfect day. What do you feel most grateful for in your life? What is the greatest thing that you have accomplishment in your life? What memory do you treasure the most? What is your worst memory? If your house caught on fire and you only had time to save one item (family and pets are already safe), what would it be?
    • Smile at her when you talk. She may have no idea that you like being around her yet, but you can make it clear through nonverbal cues. Make sure to wear a warm expression while you speak, and show off your sweet smile.
    • Let her know how you feel. She may not know that you want to be more than friends, so the best thing you can do to avoid being stuck in the “friend zone” is to tell her you want more.


  3. 3 Learn to read body language. You’ll want to pay special attention to how she reacts to you to decide if/when you should go for the kiss. Positive body language tells you that she likes what you are doing, while negative body language tells you that she dislikes it. Look for combinations of either positive or negative behaviors that let you know how she feels.
    • Positive body language can be shown when she moves towards you, points her feet toward you, uncrosses her legs, keeps her arms open and palms up, playfully fondles her jewelry or hair, smiles or maintains eye contact.
    • Negative body language may mean she moves away from you, points her feet away from you, keeps her legs and arms crossed, palms down, hands closed, fidgets, frowns or turns her eyes to the side.
    • If you are getting a lot of negative body language, then you should probably change your approach or try again at a better time or when she is in a better mood.
    • If she makes a lot of body contact with you, such as touching your hand, rubbing against your knee, gently bumping up against you, tapping you on the shoulder or holding your hand, then she’s probably into you.
  4. 4 Make physical contact. To get close enough for a kiss, you have to enter her personal space and see how she feels about it. It takes trust or expectation to allow you to get closer, and if she’s ok with it, you know you have a good chance of getting that kiss. Additionally, touch reinforces that you are interested in her and that you enjoy making contact with her.
    • Be a gentleman. Pull out her chair at a restaurant and push it back in after she sits down. This gives you the opportunity to gently touch her on the shoulder, arm or upper back.
    • Hold her hand. If she doesn’t pull away from you, then you know she likes what you are doing.
    • Adjust her hair. Touching her hair is intimate without being as personal as a kiss and will allow you to see how she feels about you. If she flinches or moves away, then she’s probably not ready or interested in a kiss. If she seems to like it, then you can take the next step toward that first kiss.
    • Try a kiss on the cheek first. Lean in and give her a peck on the cheek to see whether she offers positive or negative feedback. Then you can decide when it’s time to try a real mouth-to-mouth kiss.
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  1. 1 Plan to do something exciting together. The adrenaline rush you experience when doing something novel or challenging gets your heart racing and is similar to how you feel when you get a crush on someone. The best part about this is, she will associate the feeling of excitement with you and it may help create a heightened sense of romantic interest in you,
    • Not only are couples who engage in exciting activities significantly happier in their long-term relationships, but being in an excited state of mind also increases sexual arousal in the short-term as well.
    • Go on some rides together before you are alone together. Ski, hike, dance or to a concert—anything that will get the adrenaline flowing for both of you.
  2. 2 Pick a time and place that sets the mood. Evening often works the best because dim lights and darkness has been found to increase attraction, communication and connection, physical contact and sexual arousal. Plus, special or new surroundings are sure to make the kiss more memorable.
    • The location might be outside under the stars, in a candle-lit restaurant or a dark gym during lunch, but make sure the two of you have some privacy. She may not want an audience.
  3. 3 Pay attention to your grooming. While you will want to dress in clean clothes, brush your hair and look good for your date, don’t forget to pay special attention to your oral hygiene. Brush your teeth, and don’t eat anything strong or stinky like garlic before and during your date. You can also bring along breath mints or gum just in case.
    • You’ll want your lips to be soft, so bring along some lip balm or chap-stick as well.
    • Wear red. It makes men seem more attractive and sexually desirable.
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  1. 1 Time it right. You will want to build up to the moment and find the right time to break the tension with a kiss. Don’t wait too long, though, or she may think you aren’t interested. When you are both close, touching regularly, maintaining extended eye contact, showing positive body language, and you are not being distracted, take your chance.
    • The right time for the two of you may be toward the end of the first or second date, but it’s better to do it sometime before the end of the night so you’re not sitting in the car or standing in the doorway awkwardly.
    • Be spontaneous. An incredible kiss happens when everything falls into place. It does not have to be at any specific point during your time together. It could happen before you enter a restaurant early in the evening, across a dinner table, in a theater, or just while taking a stroll under a full moon.
    • Try not to ask first. Asking permission shows a lack of confidence and can ruin the moment. Her body language should tell you when she’s ready, but if you really aren’t sure, you can ask.
  2. 2 Take the lead. When kissing, assertiveness is attractive, so commit and go through with it. Look at her lips, wet your lips for lubrication, turn your head slightly to the right and lean in for a closed-mouth kiss. Wait for a moment so your partner can meet you half-way.
    • Use touch to make the kiss more interesting, such as holding her cheek or head, brushing her hair back, touching her neck or cuddling.
    • Though you may maintain eye contact until she returns the kiss, it’s best to close your eyes once your lips touch.
  3. 3 Be sensual and not overly aggressive or sloppy. The initial kiss is best closed-mouth without a lot of saliva exchange, and keep your tongue in your mouth. Kiss for a few moments, and pull away when she does. You can still maintain physical touch and eye contact, though.
    • Now’s the time to follow her lead and match her movements and passion. Listen to her breathing to see if she is enjoying the kiss and to ensure you are letting her get enough air.
  4. 4 Learn to deal with rejection. Sometimes the girl you want to kiss is just not interested, and you will have to move on. Recognize that it’s probably not your fault she doesn’t want to kiss—maybe she has a lot on her mind, is already in a committed relationship or just ate garlic for lunch.
    • Don’t make over generalizations about the fact that this girl didn’t want a kiss. Realize that being rejected in this one particular situation with this person does not mean that it will happen again with someone else or that there is anything wrong with you. It’s important to know that what happened does not say anything about your self-worth or value as a person.
    • Give yourself some time to “get over” your feelings for this girl and try again with someone else that you like.
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  • If she seems overly nervous about your advances, ask her out by saying something like, “how would you feel if I asked you out” or “what if we went out?”. Some girls won’t want to kiss you unless you are going out already.
  • Don’t be too pushy, girls don’t like that.
  • If she backs away or does not return the kiss, then it’s probably just not the right time. It might not be because she isn’t interested but maybe she just ate garlic or didn’t have time to brush her teeth and feels too self-conscious to kiss you at that moment. If you get another chance with her, try another day.

Show More Tips Advertisement Article Summary X To get a kiss from a girl you like, look for a chance to spend some quality time with her. Choose a romantic setting where you can get some quiet time together without any interruptions. Wait for a moment when you both feel relaxed and happy, and pay close attention to her body language.

If you see her smiling a lot, making lingering eye contact, or glancing at your lips, she might be in the mood for a kiss. Try leaning in close or putting a hand on her arm and see how she responds. If she moves closer, that’s a good sign. Say something like, “I’d really love to kiss you right now. Is that okay?” If she says yes, close your eyes, tilt your head slightly to one side, and gently bring your lips to hers.

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What is the average age for first kiss?

NEW YORK, Sept.1, 2016 /PRNewswire/ – As a new school year begins, the coveted first day is just one of many “firsts” kids may be facing over the next year. But should a seventh grader be doing the same things as a senior in high school? Whether it’s getting a car for the first time or going to see an R rated movie, everyone has an idea of what age these first-time activities are deemed appropriate for kids. First Time for Everything Harris Poll (PRNewsFoto/Harris Poll) When it comes to wearing makeup, Americans – on average – say a kid should be nearly 15 years old (14.8). Similarly, Americans were 14.7, on average, when they began wearing makeup for the first time. Teens, however, have a different perspective and say they started at 13 – a significantly lower age than their adult counterparts.

This could explain why 8 in 10 Americans (81%) say parents today let their kids wear makeup way too young. Americans may be wary of other activities happening too soon as well. In fact, overall, 92% of adults say kids today are growing up too quickly. But when should a kid not have to turn to their parents for permission and be considered an adult on their own? On average, the magic age is 18.8 years old.

However, older adults – specifically those 65 years and older – say this should actually be 19.5, significantly higher than their younger counterparts. These are some of the results of The Harris Poll ® of 2,463 U.S. adults aged 18+ and 510 teens age 13-17 surveyed online between July 14 and 27, 2016,

  1. Complete results of this study can be found here,
  2. Flying solo Americans say kids are ready at age 11 (10.7 on average) to venture out to a sleepover.
  3. When it comes to staying home alone, however, 13.5 is the magic age.
  4. Older Americans – those 45 and over – are more likely than teenagers to state a significantly higher age, on average.

This is despite the fact that Americans say they were allowed to stay home alone a whole year earlier than this, at 12.5 years old. Staying in the comforts of home is one thing, but if a child is looking to attend their first concert without a parent, they may be waiting a bit longer.

  1. While Americans went to their first concert at 18 (17.7 on average), they say kids are actually ready a bit younger – at 16.5 years of age.
  2. Love is in the air Sixteen years old is when Americans feel kids are ready for their first one-on-one date.
  3. Interestingly, this is largely agreed upon across generations.

No need to wait for the official first date to get a little face time, however. Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5. But first, let’s talk about sex. Americans feel kids need the “sex talk” at age 12 (12.3 on average), a year earlier than they were given the chat (13.2 on average).

  1. Screen time A hotly debated issue among parents today surrounds screen time and when kids should get access to certain electronics.
  2. On average, Americans say 14 is when kids should get a cell phone.
  3. While parents with adult-aged children say they should wait until 15 (14.8 on average), those with younger kids say they need them at age 13 (13.3 on average).

Moving onto the big screen, kids are ready to see an R rated movie at 16.5. Older Americans, however, think this age should be higher. Those over 45 say kids should be 17 (45-54: 16.8; 55-64: 17.0), with those 65 and older saying 18 (17.9 on average) is more appropriate.

Behind the wheel While Americans may say kids are ready to get behind the wheel at age 16 (15.9 on average), they’re not ready for the responsibility of their own wheels until nearly age 18 (17.6 on average). Those 65 and older state an age significantly higher than their younger counterparts. It’s all about the Benjamins And just who is paying for all of these first time activities? Parents are likely footing the bill until at least age 15, when Americans agree a child is ready for their first job (15.5 on average).

Until then, many kids may be able to rake in the dough from their weekly allowance, which Americans say should start at age 10 (9.8 on average). To see other recent Harris Polls, please visit our website,, Want Harris Polls delivered direct to your inbox? Click here ! Methodology This Harris Poll was conducted online, in English, within the United States between July 14 and 27, 2016 among 2,463 adults aged 18+ and 510 teens aged 13-17.

  • Figures for age, sex, race/ethnicity, education, region and household income were weighted where necessary to bring them into line with their actual proportions in the population.
  • Propensity score weighting was also used to adjust for respondents’ propensity to be online.
  • All sample surveys and polls, whether or not they use probability sampling, are subject to multiple sources of error which are most often not possible to quantify or estimate, including sampling error, coverage error, error associated with nonresponse, error associated with question wording and response options, and post-survey weighting and adjustments.

Therefore, The Harris Poll avoids the words “margin of error” as they are misleading. All that can be calculated are different possible sampling errors with different probabilities for pure, unweighted, random samples with 100% response rates. These are only theoretical because no published polls come close to this ideal.

  • Respondents for this survey were selected from among those who have agreed to participate in Harris Poll surveys.
  • The data have been weighted to reflect the composition of the adult population.
  • Because the sample is based on those who agreed to participate in our panel, no estimates of theoretical sampling error can be calculated.

These statements conform to the principles of disclosure of the National Council on Public Polls. The results of this Harris Poll may not be used in advertising, marketing or promotion without the prior written permission of The Harris Poll. Product and brand names are trademarks or registered trademarks of their respective owners.

The Harris Poll ® #57, September 1, 2016 By Allyssa Birth, Senior Research Analyst, The Harris Poll About The Harris Poll® Begun in 1963, The Harris Poll is one of the longest running surveys measuring public opinion in the U.S. and is highly regarded throughout the world. The nationally representative polls, conducted primarily online, measure the knowledge, opinions, behaviors and motivations of the general public.

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Is it OK for a girl to kiss first?

When Should the First Kiss Happen? Should You Kiss on a First Date?

  1. You’ll usually feel a romantic spark after getting to know the person. If you want a quick way to see if you’re compatible, try smooching within the first few dates. Some people want to kiss right away on the first date, but others just need a little more time getting to know each other. Just remember that it’s completely normal if someone wants to wait longer if they have different values or beliefs.
    • There is absolutely nothing wrong with kissing on the first date if you really like the person and they’re into it!
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  1. There’s no right time, so let your kiss happen spontaneously. If you try choosing a specific time for your first kiss, you may start feeling a little anxious waiting. Take a breath, relax, and just pay attention if you’re feeling that romantic spark. If you’re having a fun time and sharing a laugh with your date, try leaning in for a kiss to see how they respond.
    • Only kiss people if you feel a connection with them so you don’t lead them on.
    • There might be a chance that your date isn’t ready for a kiss quite yet. If they pull away, stop and apologize. Wait and let the other person make the next move so you don’t come off too strong.
  1. If they make eye contact or touch you, they want a kiss. Watch how your date acts around you to see if they’re giving you any signals. A light brush against you, a lot of eye contact, or them playing with their hair are all signs that they’re into you. If they’re biting their lip or looking at your lips, then it’s a sure sign they want you to make a move.
    • Try brushing against them to see if they respond. If they try to pull away, wait to make your move since they may need to get to know you a little better first.
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  1. A little privacy makes your first kiss feel more special. Even if you really feel the urge to kiss someone, it could make them feel a little uncomfortable if you’re out in public. Step over to somewhere a little more private so you have a chance to enjoy the moment without anyone disturbing you.
    • For example, if you’re at a party, you may go outside for a few minutes or find a room without a lot of people.
    • As another example, you may try going for a kiss as you’re walking your date back to their car.
  1. The other person will lean in for the kiss if they’re in the mood. As soon as you start leaning in, you’re telling the other person you want to kiss them. Stop just in front of their face so they can go in for the kiss if they feel the same way. Otherwise, you’ve respectfully given them the option to still say no.
    • If the other person isn’t interested, they may lean away or tell you they aren’t ready. Rather than getting discouraged, wait for another moment and let them take the initiative next time.
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  1. Asking someone is respectful, but it may sound old-fashioned. Consent is really important for making sure that the other person feels comfortable. While it may seem like your date wants to kiss from their body language, it never hurts to ask if you’re feeling nervous or anxious. That way, you give the other person a choice without forcing them into a decision.
    • For example, you could say something like, “I’ve had so much fun on our date tonight. Can I give you a kiss?” If they say yes, then you can lean in for the kiss. If they say no, then wait until another time later in the date or during the next date.
  1. This shows confidence but gives the person a chance to say no. If you’re feeling really passionate but don’t want to sound too aggressive, tell them exactly how you’re feeling. That way, you make your intentions really clear, but your date still gets to choose if they want to kiss you.
    • For example, you could say something like, “This night has been amazing, and I would love to kiss you right now.” If they say that they don’t want to kiss, thank them for telling you and respect their choice. You can always try again later or during another date.
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  1. This lets the person know you’re interested without too much pressure. Even if you really like someone, it’s completely normal to feel nervous about your first real kiss. If you still want to give them a kiss but aren’t ready for a full makeout session, try a quick peck on the cheek instead so they know you’re still into them.
    • If you don’t want to be the one to make the first move, kissing your date on the cheek might give them the courage to kiss you back.
    • Depending on your culture, a kiss on the cheek may feel a little more platonic than romantic.
  1. End the date on a romantic note so they know you’re interested. Saying goodbye is a perfect time to let your date know that you want to see them again. If you’re feeling the spark at the end of the date, linger for a second before you say goodbye. Say something like, “I had fun,” or “I’ve really loved spending time with you,” to make the moment more romantic and urge your date to make their move.
    • Look your date in the eyes so you can really connect with them in the moment.
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  1. Build up the anticipation to make your kiss more exciting next time. First dates are all about figuring out if you’re compatible with the other person. If you aren’t sure about how you feel yet, hold off on the kiss and just give your date a hug. Make a plan to get together again soon so they know that you’re interested and want to keep seeing them.
    • Many people wait until the second or third date for their first kiss, so don’t get discouraged if you don’t get one on your first date.

If you still don’t feel like kissing, you may be better as friends. If you like the person but you aren’t sure if you have physical chemistry, keep chatting and get together a few more times. After a few dates, gauge how you’re feeling with the person to see if you have the urge to kiss them. If you’re still not feeling that connection, then it might be time to call off the relationship so you don’t hurt their feelings. Advertisement

No one should force you into a kiss if you’re not ready. Only you get to decide when you want to have your first kiss. If the other person seems impatient for a kiss or acts judgmental when you tell them you’re not ready for one, then that may be a red flag that the person doesn’t want a deep relationship.

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What to say before kissing a girl?

How to Give a Girl a Kiss She Will Never Forget: 11 Steps

  1. 1 Relax and enjoy each other’s company. You don’t have to do anything special to have a memorable kiss with someone. If you and this girl like each other, she will probably enjoy kissing you and remember the kiss regardless of what you do. Try doing something that is fun for both of you and kiss her when the mood feels right.
    • For example, if you and this girl enjoy watching movies, watch a movie together.
    • If you’re both avid sports fans, you could attend a local sports game and give her a kiss when your team scores.
  2. 2 Look at her and hold her gaze when you want to kiss her. Look into her eyes and smile or keep your expression neutral. Keep looking at her until she notices you or say something simple like, “hey,” to get her attention. If she looks back at you and holds your gaze, she probably wants to kiss you, too.
    • Even if you don’t kiss right away, this can be a great way to build anticipation for the kiss. Try leaning in closer to her, but stopping a few inches from her face so your lips are just out of her reach.
    • Look her in the eyes and smile to let her butterflies fly inside her belly, creating anticipation.
    • Keep moving your eyes from her eyes to her lips to make it clear you’re interested in kissing her.


  3. 3 Wait for a good moment if you want to heighten the romance. The right time to kiss someone could be when you least expect it, so be on the lookout for a romantic moment. This might be while you’re talking, walking, or dancing together. While you don’t have to stage an elaborate scene, try waiting until you’re alone together so you can express your feelings for her with a kiss.
  4. 4 Try to avoid kissing her when she might be distracted. When your girl is engrossed in the latest episode of her favorite show or is busy talking to her friends probably isn’t the best time to kiss her. You may want to go somewhere quiet and private with her if you are somewhere public and think she might be uncomfortable if you kiss her in front of other people. Tip : You can kiss her in public in some situations. For example, at the movies together or while taking a walk in the park are public settings that might work well. However, kissing her in the middle of a bustling restaurant or in front of a group of her friends probably won’t work out as well.
  5. 5 Say something romantic just before you kiss her. Tell her she’s beautiful, that you love the way she laughs, or that you just love her (as long as you mean it). Saying something romantic before you kiss her can help to ensure that she will always remember the moment. It may also help to increase the chances that she will want to kiss you in the first place.
    • Try saying something like, “You are so beautiful,” or “I love spending time with you.”
    • Make sure that you say something genuine to her. Don’t lie or flatter her because you think she will kiss you if you do.
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  1. 1 Look her in the eyes and lean in towards her slowly. When you’re ready to go in for the kiss, make eye contact with her. If she looks away, she might not want to kiss yet, so hold off a little longer. However, if she looks back into your eyes, try leaning towards her. If she leans in toward you, this is a good sign she wants to kiss you.
    • Try taking this opportunity to look at her closely and appreciate her beauty. You could even run your thumb across her lips before you kiss her and gaze into her eyes for a few seconds before you kiss her.
  2. 2 Take it slow and tease her a little at first. Avoid rushing or kissing her too aggressively as this can make a kiss awkward and uncomfortable. Start by kissing her lightly on the lips with no tongue. Then, apply more pressure to her lips with your lips as the kiss continues. If you want to intensify the kiss even more, gently slide your tongue into her mouth and massage her tongue with yours. Tip : If this is your first time kissing her, you may want to hold off on the tongue and avoid making it last too long. Try kissing her on the lips for 10-15 seconds before you gently pull away.
  3. 3 Touch her face or neck while you kiss her. Try cradling the side of her face or her chin with one hand while you kiss her. Or you could gently stroke her cheek or neck while you kiss. For an even more intense option, place one hand on each side of her face and pull her towards you as you go in for the kiss. Hold her face close to yours while you kiss her.
    • Make sure to be gentle when you touch her face or neck. Grabbing her roughly in these areas could hurt her and ruin the mood.
  4. 4 Place your hands on her waist and pull her closer to you. Watch for signs that she’s enjoying the kiss and seems to want to get closer to you, such as by holding onto your shoulders or pressing her body against yours. Show her that you noticed and you want to get closer too by grasping her hips or waist and pulling her towards you. Even placing your hand on the small of her back and pressing her gently towards you can be a great way to get closer and intensify the kiss.
    • For an even more memorable moment, you could lift her up into your arms while you kiss her or pull her onto your lap if you’re sitting down. However, only do this if she seems to be enjoying the kiss.
  5. 5 Pay attention to how she reacts to your kiss and respond sensitively. She may lean in closer to you, run her fingers through your hair, sling her arms around your neck, or possibly even push you away. No matter what she does, be sensitive to it and respond appropriately.
    • For example, if she runs her fingers through your hair, you might respond by softly stroking her hair, back, or arm.
    • If she pushes away from you when you kiss her, take a step back from her as well to let her know you won’t do it again. You could even say something like, “I’m sorry. Was that too fast?”
  6. 6 Kiss her neck, earlobes, jawline, or shoulders after the kiss ends. Adding a few gentle kisses to other areas of her upper body can heighten the romance and make the kiss even more memorable. If she seems to want to keep kissing you after you pull away, try gently kissing her on her earlobes, jawline, neck, or shoulders. Then, kiss her on the mouth again after exploring these areas of her body.
    • Avoid sucking on her neck or other areas of her body. This will leave unsightly bruises and it can be painful.
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  • Question I want to kiss my crush, but I’m not sure if she’s interested. How can I kiss her? You may want to start by getting to know her. Try having a few casual conversations with her and then ask her on a date if the conversations go well. Then, you can try to kiss her during your date.
  • Question What if the girl or boy pushes me away and I feel embarrassed? Try not to take it personally. Just because one person doesn’t want to kiss you doesn’t mean other people won’t want to either. Keep looking for the right person.
  • Question Is anything wrong with being attracted to members of the same sex? No, there’s nothing wrong with that at all! Some people like girls, boys, or both. It’s all normal.

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Is 20 too late for first kiss?

It’s never too late to have your first kiss, to love and be loved, or to get in ‘the game.’ I think you already know that, or at least suspect it, but here’s me saying: You’re right. It always seems impossible until it happens. For now, take that pressure off yourself, and enjoy being 20.

Is 18 late for a first kiss?

Never Been Kissed? Here’s How to Prepare for Your First Kiss Welcome to a special edition of, a column in which Nona Willis Aronowitz addresses your biggest questions about sex, dating, relationships, and all the gray areas in between. Have a question for Nona? Send it to [email protected], or DM her on or,

Q: I have never anyone and I’m in my second year of college. I never tell friends or people I meet because I’m ashamed of it, I think. I have even said to some people that I had experience just to avoid an embarrassing conversation. So I have always wondered, when I meet the guy I eventually kiss, if I should be honest or not.

I can’t help thinking that maybe he won’t be into it once he knows I’m behind. Also, how do you kiss to not disappoint a person that has experience? How do you see a kiss coming? —Teresa, 19 A: I’m going to tell you a secret: No matter how sexually confident, most people are secretly fretting about how they measure up to everyone else.

  • They might doubt their know-how, skill, or experience; whatever the reason, many of your peers are likely feeling the same kind of anxiety you are.
  • Particularly when you’re a teen, seldom follows a predictable or linear path.
  • Instead, it unfolds in fits and starts, often amid a backdrop of crushing social expectations.

I remember embellishing how “far” I’d gone when I was a young teen, and I almost definitely tried to impress a few older girls by telling them I had started my period when I hadn’t. (I didn’t regularly menstruate until I was 14.) When it comes to withholding the truth to save face, you’re hardly unusual: Nearly half of teens about their sexual experiences.

  1. Because sex is so complicated and tender, we tend to focused on ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts,'” says Alexandra Solomon, a clinical psychologist who teaches on relationships at Northwestern University.
  2. We get concrete and numerical.
  3. There’s often shame and embarrassment whenever we perceive that we’re too far behind or ahead.” College students undoubtedly feel pressure to sexually explore, but there’s no reason to be ashamed of your unique sexual trajectory.

Remind yourself, Solomon advises, that your kiss-free status is “simply a statement of fact, not a statement of worth.” It might also be comforting to know that, statistically, your situation isn’t wildly uncommon. “It’s true that by age 19, more teens have kissed someone than haven’t, but it’s completely normal either way,” says Eva Lefkowitz, a Professor of Human Development and Family Sciences at the University of Connecticut.

  1. In her on first kisses, she found that about 14% of 17 to 19 year olds had never kissed someone by their first semester of college.
  2. These older teens cite lots of reasons for delaying this milestone, like “focus on other things like school and extracurricular activities, feeling shy/inhibited, lack of interest, or lack of opportunity,” Lefkowitz says.

No matter the reason for why you haven’t had a kiss, the biggest takeaway from Lefkowitz’s research is that there’s nothing wrong with the pace of your experience. Though it may seem everyone else is making out all the time, that may not be the case. : Never Been Kissed? Here’s How to Prepare for Your First Kiss

Is it OK to kiss at 14?

Download Article Download Article If you are 12-15 years old and are very anxious about kissing another teen, that’s okay! These feels are totally normal, and there’s no pressure to have your first kiss. Kiss someone when you feel ready and you like the person. When it’s time for the kiss, lean in 90% of the way, and let the other person meet you the rest of the way.

  • Flirt with someone in a quiet, private space to make them comfortable and ditch distractions before you go in for the kiss.
  • Afterwards, compliment them for being a good kisser and keep the conversation going to boost their confidence and avoid awkward silence.
  • Brush your teeth and apply chapstick beforehand to keep your breath and lips fresh.
  1. 1 Get to know someone you think is really neat and interesting. Try to find someone who strikes your interest. Maybe they are very cute, smart, funny, or unique. Chat with this person to build a friendship, and start to flirt with them to show your interest. This could be a kid in your class or someone in your after-school club.
    • This may take some time, but you’ll be thankful your kiss was with someone you really like.
    • To flirt, you can start by joking around, complimenting them, and making eye contact,
  2. 2 Notice their body language to tell if they want to kiss you. If your crush likes you, it won’t be too hard to notice. Some promising signs of this include frequent smiles, teasing, poking, tickling, or touching. These are good indicators that your crush may be thinking about kissing you too.
    • If your crush flips their hair, this may be a sign that they are into you
    • If you notice your crush joking with you a lot and trying to make you laugh, they may want to kiss you too.
    • It’s always a good idea to think it a kiss is appropriate for the time and the moment before going in for it.


  3. 3 Kiss someone when you feel ready, regardless of how old you are. Around ages 12-15, people often start having their first kiss. Don’t feel pressured by other people your age kissing people, and don’t rush into kissing someone if you are apprehensive. You’ll know intuitively when the time feels right.
    • It’s perfectly normal to have butterflies in your stomach or feel nervous at the thought of kissing someone.
    • If someone wants to kiss you but you aren’t ready, say something like, “Sorry, I don’t want to yet,” or “Sorry, I would love to kiss you, but I’m not ready for that right now.”
    • A lot of people don’t feel safe or comfortable kissing on the first date. This is perfectly normal and you don’t have to feel guilty about it.
  4. 4 Play kissing games with your friends if you can’t find a partner. Another way to find someone to kiss is to play games like Truth or Dare and Spin the Bottle, You can kiss someone at random or have a friend try to help you hook up with a hottie. Many people start kissing by playing games with their friends, so give this a shot if you want to kiss someone.
    • For example, tell your friend that you want to kiss someone in particular, and then they can dare the person to kiss you during Truth or Dare.
    • If you play these games, know that you may wind up kissing someone. Be comfortable with the kiss before you play.
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  1. 1 Brush your teeth prior to the kiss so your breath is fresh. If you have bad breath, it may make the kiss unpleasant. To prevent this, brush your teeth 2 times a day for 2 minutes. If you know you have a kiss planned, brush your teeth before you see the other person.
    • You can also use mouthwash for extra-fresh breath. Swish the mouthwash around for 30 seconds or so.
    • To freshen your breath throughout the day, use chewing gum or breath mints.
  2. 2 Use chapstick regularly to get rid of dry skin. To get kissably smooth lips, you can put on chapstick 1-3 times throughout the day. Chapstick hydrates your lips and gets rid of dry skin, so your lips will be smooth and ready for a kiss.
    • For example, put on chapstick after you brush your teeth in the morning and/or right before you go to bed.
  3. 3 Avoid applying lip gloss right before the kiss so there’s no mess. While lipgloss can make your lips look shiny and kissable, it also can make a big, sticky mess if you wear it while kissing. If you are planning a kiss, go without wearing lip gloss that day.
    • You can also wipe it off before the kiss for another option.
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  1. 1 Choose a private or semi-private space where you won’t be distracted. Ideally, try to find a place without many people around so you can focus solely on the kiss. This can be outside of your school, in a park, at the mall, or at a house, for instance.
    • Avoid kissing during school. This is considered “public display of affection” and you can get in trouble.
    • Don’t kiss with you or the other person’s parents/guardian(s) around. Since you’re still a teenager, they may not find this acceptable.
  2. 2 Flirt with them so they are more comfortable. If the other person seems nervous, do your best to make them feel relaxed. You can look into the other person’s eyes and smile, tell them a funny story or joke, or tease them about a silly comment.
    • This breaks the ice and makes the kiss seem less intimidating.
    • For example, say something like, “You have really pretty eyes,” or “I really like that shirt,” to compliment them.
    • You can tell a silly knock-knock joke such as, “Knock Knock!” “Who’s there?” “Al!” “Al who?” “Al give you a kiss if you open this door!”
  3. 3 Move your face slowly, aiming to get 90% of the way to their lips. When it’s time for the kiss, look your partner in the eyes, and tilt your head the opposite way of your partner. Slowly bring your mouth toward theirs, and close your eyes when you get close. Instead of going all the way in for the kiss, stop when you get about 1 in (2.5 cm) or so away so they can reciprocate.
    • If you move your head in the same direction as your partner, you may bump heads.
  4. 4 Let them come the other 10% of the way to ensure they want to kiss you. Wait a brief second for your partner to bring their lips to yours. This way, you know for sure that they want to kiss you too. This is also a fun, flirty way to make the kiss less awkward.
    • If you notice the other person pulling away, stop and apologize. It’s okay if they aren’t comfortable with the kiss yet. Say something like, “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable.”
  5. 5 Press your lips forward with light pressure when you touch lips. To enjoy the kiss, pucker your lips slightly when your partner kisses you back, and let the kiss continue for 2-5 seconds or so. Your partner may not like it if you kiss them too forcefully.
    • This doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out kiss, as that may make it more awkward than it already may be.
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  1. 1 Avoid going for the tongue during the first kiss. Aim to deliver a quick, sweet kiss rather than using tongue or a lot of pressure. Then, move your head away from theirs. Using tongue may seem sloppy or extra awkward since you are new to kissing.
    • When you kiss at a young age, this is all you need to worry about. Over time, you can develop your make-out skills.
    • Avoid aggressive kissing, as shoving your tongue down someone else’s mouth isn’t really a great idea.
  2. 2 Compliment the other person to boost their confidence. After you kiss the other person, you can also say something like “Wow, that was great,” “You’re a good kisser,” or “I enjoyed that.” This reassures the other person that you like them and enjoyed the moment, and it also acts as a transition back into other conversation.
    • You can also say, “Can I kiss you again?” before going in for another smooch.
  3. 3 Keep the conversation going after the kiss so it’s not awkward. To ease you and/or your partner’s anxiety, aim to have a natural conversation. If you were discussing your weekend plans, ask your partner a question about it, for instance. You can also bring up a new topic to chat about, such as your upcoming sports game.
    • If you or your partner are quiet after the kiss, you may feel more uncomfortable or start to doubt the kiss.
    • The amount of time to chat for depends on your particular situation. For example, if you kissing someone while saying goodbye and now have to leave, chat for 1-5 minutes or so then politely excuse yourself.
    • If you are playing a kissing game, simply return to the game and let the next player take their turn.
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  • Watch movies of kissing scenes if you want to get some ideas and inspiration.
  • If you’re ready to kiss someone, start up a romantic conversation. This will make them more want to kiss you rather than you just kissing them and doing all the work.
  • Don’t trust what you see in movies! They are staged. Also, just enjoy the moment rather than trying to copy a movie scene.

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Do not kiss someone else unless they are completely comfortable with the situation.

Advertisement Article Summary X If you’re a young teen looking forward to your first kiss, it’s natural to feel a little nervous. But if you take a little time to prepare and make sure that you and your crush both feel ready, you can make it a fun and romantic experience for both of you.

  1. If you think you might have an opportunity to kiss someone, brush your teeth ahead of time, use mouthwash, or eat a mint so your breath is nice and fresh.
  2. If your lips are dry, put on some lip balm to help make them kissably soft.
  3. Look for a chance to spend a little private time with your crush, and wait until both of you are feeling comfortable and relaxed.

If you’re not sure whether they’re interested in kissing you, flirt with them a little first and pay attention to how they react. For example, you might say something like, “I love being with you,” or “You look so beautiful right now.” If they smile and make eye contact, move closer to you, or flirt back, they may be into it.

To make sure, you can always say something like, “Is it okay if I kiss you?” When you’re ready to make a move, lean in and bring your mouth close to theirs. Close your eyes as you move in, and tilt your head to one side a little so you don’t bump noses. When your face is about 1 inch (2.5 cm) away from theirs, stop and wait for them to respond.

If they pull away or ask you to stop, don’t sweat it or try to pressure them to kiss you—just say “sorry” and move on. If they do want to kiss you, they’ll probably lean in and touch their lips to yours. For your first kiss, keep it simple and just press your lips to theirs lightly for 2 to 5 seconds.

Avoid using your tongue or applying a lot of pressure. When you’re done, gently pull away. If they seem nervous, say something like, “Wow, that was amazing,” or “You’re a great kisser.” You can also ask if it’s okay to kiss them again. If things feel a little awkward after your kiss, don’t worry—that’s totally normal.

You can always break the tension by cracking a silly joke or starting a fun conversation about something you’re both interested in. For more tips, including how to keep your lips and breath nice for kissing, read on! Did this summary help you? Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 1,073,050 times.

What to say after a kiss?

What to say after a kiss? Anything you want, or nothing at all! A simple smile is often more than enough.

How long should a kiss last?

How Long Should a Great Kiss Last?

A six-second kiss is an easy, practical way to build connection. Benefits range from reducing stress and improving physical health to increasing intimacy. Practicing kissing for six seconds can be both fun and beneficial for your relationship.

How To Kiss A Girl Source: George Pak/Pexels Have you ever wondered if your kiss is lasting long enough? You’ve probably never timed it, but maybe you’ve wished it lasted longer. In John Gottman’s relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner.

In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day. John calls the six-second kiss “a kiss with potential.” An important part of your relationship is building and maintaining a connection with your partner. When we feel really connected, conflict and hard times tend to seem easier to get through.

Our connection helps us see our partner in a positive light and focus on the things we appreciate about them instead of things that bother us. When the connection is really strong in your relationship, you are in positive sentiment override. This is a term used to describe couples who see a positive perspective in their relationship due to their strong connection.

What is butterfly kiss?

: the act or an instance of fluttering one’s eyelashes against another person’s skin ” I’ve invented a new way of kissing. You do it with your eye-lashes.” “I’ve known that for years. It’s called a butterfly kiss,” — Evelyn Waugh Studies suggest that the butterfly kiss occurs between people either who are madly in love or those who are crazy about each other. — Times Now News

How do you kiss cutely?

A kiss is the most intimate form of love that can exist in all eternity. The touch of your partner’s lips over yours can send waves of love and affection within you. This pure form of love requires no spoken communication but just the longing look of love, mixed with utmost fondness and desire.

  • A tender kiss on the lips signifies promise, ignites passion and relays togetherness in all its glory.
  • The art of kissing shouldn’t be simple, but as creative as you can be, because after all, it’s how you tell your partner how much you love them! Besides, don’t mistake kissing to only be the slight touch of lips.

It is so much more! Be it a French kiss or an American Kiss (yes, you read it right), everyone wants to master the art of kissing. It may not seem easy to perfect your kisses to impress your partner, but don’t worry. We have got you covered. We bring to you an extensive guide on how to master these simple yet complicated types of kisses.1.

FRENCH KISS One of the most passionate ways to kiss, a French kiss tops the list of kisses! An intimate and erotic move, it is surely to set your partner’s mood for some romance. Start by tilting in and locking your partner’s lips with yours. Remember to go with the flow, rushing through this divine moment can ruin the feel of it.

Slowly extend your tongue and reach out for your partner’s tongue. Just feel the moment and you’d nail your ‘perfect kiss’! 2. SINGLE LIP KISS Twee and romantic, single lip kisses are the best way to tell your partner ‘I love you’. Start by leaning closer and reaching out for one of their lips.

  • Start sucking the lip gently in a romantic manner.
  • Biting during a single lip kiss to show your wild side is a big NO! Just sandwich one of their lips between yours and keep sucking to send a strong romantic message! 3.
  • LIZZY KISS Have you ever seen how a lizard sticks out its tongue? This is a similar type of kiss wherein both the partners stick out their tongues and kiss each other without the use of their lips.

For some, it might be a little dirty but for those who share high level of intimacy, it can prove to be really amorous! Read here : How to Kiss a Girl 4. AMERICAN KISS An American kiss, just like a French kiss, involves deep kissing but without the use of tongue.

Hold your lady close by her waist and pin her closer to your body kissing her hard. Bend her a little giving support to her with your hand on her back and get lost in the romantic moment! It is sure to give both of you an erotic rush.5. ICE KISS Want to try an interesting way to kiss your partner? Try this ice-kiss that is sure to send chills down your and your partner’s spine! Just hold a cube of ice between your lips and start kissing your partner.

Kiss them passionately till the ice melts completely in your mouth. Try this variation of kissing that would give your partner goose bumps.6. NIBBLE KISS Wish to arouse your man with just a kiss? Nibble kisses are cute and at the same time very sensual.

Just grab your partner’s lower lip and bite it gently. Do not be too harsh as it would cause pain and ruin your intimate moment. It makes your make-out session a lot more thrilling and would set the base for a lot extra! 7. LIP TRACE KISS As playful and flirty as it can get, a lip trace kiss is the sweetest of all! Trace your partner’s lips with your tongue gently kissing them in between.

It would definitely add spice to your ‘moment’ and leave your partner craving for a lot more.8. BUTTERFLY KISS All you need to do is sit close to your partner, and let your eye lashes touch theirs. And as you kiss, flutter your lashes together like butterfly wings.

If you want to do a solo kiss, blink your eye lashes against their cheek and see them blushing. It’s cute, fun and something different to try out.9. THE LIP GLOSS KISS It’s going to turn out quite playful. Put a generous amount of a flavoured lip gloss, and wildly kiss your partner until their lips are coated with it too.

Now, make it more interesting by asking them to guess the flavour. You can also opt for tinted lip gloss but make sure your partner is comfortable with the act.10. SPIDERMAN KISS Inspired from the movie, this kiss is bound to turn on your partner. To do it, the face of the partner needs to be upside down, so that your upper lip kisses their lower lip, and vice versa. 11. EARLOBE KISS Who says a kiss has to be done just on lips! All you need to do is grab your partner’s ear between your lips and put your tongue to work. Use a gentle sucking motion to seduce them further and don’t forget to tug the earlobe downwards, gently.

Since this particular region has nerve endings, your partner is going to love it.12. HICKEY Hickey might not qualify as a kiss, but what’s wrong in going a bit bold and experimenting. Hickey (also called love bite) is a red mark that is left on the skin when you partner sucks the area hard enough. It is advisable to take your partner’s permission for doing it as some might find it pleasurable, and others painful.

Also, the place where you do it matters as well as your partner might get embarrassed later if it is visible.13. AIR KISS This kissing style is more on formal side and generally done to greet your near and dear ones. All it requires is resting your cheek against the other person’s cheek and make a kissing sound, that’s it.

  1. Read here : How to Kiss a man 14.
  2. THE SUGAR KISS If your partner and you have a sweet tooth, then sugar kiss is one of the perfect options for you.
  3. Look for food items that you both love to binge on, like ice cream, marshmallow fluff, chocolate, etc, and kiss while they melt in your mouth.
  4. Who says snacking can’t be romantic! 15.

UNDERWATER KISS If your partner and you know how to swim and stay underwater for a few seconds, then this one is going to be your one of best sexual adventures. Here, partners hold their breath and kiss underwater. Or, either one of the partner holds his/her breath underwater and the other one gives them air. 16. DRINK KISS This one is pretty interesting and might require a few sessions to master it. Here, one of the partner takes a sip of their favourite drink (you can try alcohol too!), and try to pour this drink into your partner’s mouth while kissing. Make sure you take a small sip initially, and be prepared if the drink spills.

  • Guess, there’s another way of getting drunk with your partner.17.
  • ESKIMO KISS This one is inspired from the way people in Eskimo culture do it.
  • All you need to do is to rub your nose back and forth against your partner’s nose.
  • You can add your own touch by kissing in between.
  • It would be funny but sensual.18.

VACUUM KISS As the name suggests, the idea is to suck the air from your partner’s mouth. It is an open-mouthed kiss where both the partners kiss while sucking the air from each other’s mouth and thereby creating vacuum. It sounds a bit weird but is surely worth a try.19. 20. CHIN KISS This one is quite simple yet erotic. Gently hold your partners chin with your middle finger, index finger and thumb, and tilt it towards the right direction. Enjoy the kissing while holding it.21. VAMPIRE KISS Channelise your inner vampire and show your partner your wild side.

Just like vampires do it, plant a deep kiss on their neck while sucking the area, and biting it gently. You can go little raunchy and give a love bite as well. Since it might leave the red mark, make sure you ask your partner before doing it. Also, make sure it is painful in a pleasurable way. Hope the message is clear.22.

JAWLINE KISS This one is again another simple kissing style that can drive your partner crazy. To give a jawline kiss to your partner, start kissing them passionately on the bottom of their jaw—the area where their neck meets their face. If they like it, take it to next level by kissing their earlobes and forehead.23.

WET KISS This style might not interest everyone, so be sure about your partner’s preferences before trying it out. A wet kiss is an open-mouthed kiss, and can be done with or without using your tongue. A little bit of wetness while kissing can be a turn on, but doing it excessively can be a messy affair.

To spice up it even more, introduce a few more kissing styles while doing it. Spend a few seconds on close-mouth, single-lip kisses along with little bit of biting to keep things steamier. (Images: Shutterstock)

Which zodiac is a good kisser?

In general, water signs like Pisces and Scorpio have a leg up on the competition because they know how to bring the emotional intensity. Fire signs (like Aries and Sagittarius) also make great kissers because they’ve got a major zest for life—they’re super passionate people.

Where should I first kiss a girl?

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  • Even if you screw up on the first kiss, that doesn’t mean that you’ve screwed up with that person indefinitely.
  • The key is to not over-think the kiss. The more you obsess over the “perfect” kiss the more nervous you’ll be when the time comes to actually have the kiss.
  • If you’re a bit shy or if it’s your first time Try to kiss in a hidden place or romantic but hidden place like a den or a corn field.


Remember: a kiss is not a business transaction. The person you’re kissing (or wanting to kiss) doesn’t owe you anything, no matter if you gave them a ride, bought them dinner, or did something nice for them.

Advertisement Article Summary X Although you don’t want to overthink your first kiss, there are things you can do to make it memorable. Find a good place for your first kiss, where you have some privacy and space to relax. Cars, quiet parks, and bedrooms are all good kissing spots.

  • You also want it to be the right time.
  • Wait until you’re both relaxed and in a good mood.
  • Try joking around with them to help you get comfortable with each other.
  • Before you go in for the kiss, build a little tension by touching their face or staring into their eyes for a little while.
  • Then, just go with the flow and enjoy it.

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